God’s Word tells us that He has set eternity in the hearts of men (Ecclesiastes 3:11). There is a longing in the deepest depths of our being to be loved perfectly. Did you know that was possible? Do you know that only God can meet that need? No human being can love us like God and likewise we cannot love others the way God loves them. We all fall short of the glory of God. The love of God is perfect which means something that we cannot experience through this world. God’s love is out of this world. Francis Chan wrote a book on this subject titled “Crazy Love”. How can you receive a love that is infinite, supernatural, unconditional and immutable? Only by faith. You can’t earn it, deserve it or ever consider yourself worthy to receive it. It is a gift that we receive that is undeserved and unmerited. There is a saying, “To consent to be loved while unworthy is the great secret”.
The void in our hearts is something that we must try to fill, a search for satisfaction that often comes through attempts to be approved and accepted by others. We can try to fill the void with money, status, power, beauty, achievement. But all of that is subject to change. We cannot rely on that to be permanent. Furthermore, we cannot rely on our performance to earn it. There is only one Rock that will hold us through every single circumstance through the rest of our lives. That love is given by Jesus Christ, the only Foundation able hold us through thick and thin (1 Corinthians 3:11), through every storm in life (Matthew 7:25).
The closest we can come to this perfect love in this life is marriage where we vow to love for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness or health till death do us part. That is the perfect love that God desires for our marriages. But, we have a very difficult time maintaining that don’t we? The only way we can ever come close is to be so transformed by the true love of God that we begin to love just like He does. We must be loved perfectly if we are to be able to give that love to others. We cannot give away what we don’t first receive. Have you received the perfect love of God? Are you giving that love away to everyone in your life especially your spouse? In a very real way, God desires that we live out our daily lives repeating our wedding vows by our words and deeds. Our children see that and are deeply impressed. Others see that and we become a witness of the power of God in our promise keeping. Marriages should be based on my unconditional promises not on conditional performance of my spouse. Character not conditions should be the foundation of our covenants. Grace not law.
Perfect love casts out fear.
1 John 4:18
If you love those who love you, what reward will you get?
Are not even the tax collectors doing that?
And if you greet only your brothers, what are you doing more than others?
Do not even pagans do that?
Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect.