Priorities

What is the top priority in your life?

Be very honest with yourself. Where do you spend your time? what do you think about? dream about? Is your success in life is doing things “My Way”, what is the motivating factor in your life?
If you are married, the question today is where is your spouse on your priority list?

How about the answer to these questions: Do I make God my highest priority by my lifestyle? Take a look at your calendar. There are 168 hours in the week. If hours were currency, where are you investing your time? If God was #1, do you think it would be reasonable to assume that He would be worshiped through your commitment in tangible ways? Are you reading the Word daily, talking to Him in prayer and meditating on His promises, giving your life to Him through service to the church, the Body of Christ?

Now consider your marriage. Virtually all marriage experts agree that investing your time in your marriage relationship is the first step toward helping or maintaining happiness in marriage.
One expert says that at a minimum, we should spend at least 30 minutes twice a week doing nothing but focusing on each other by simply talking to each other. That’s one hour divided by 168.
He also counsels that during that time we have no other distractions like the phone, texts, tv, or computers. Turn everything else off and give top priority to your spouse. If you need an ice breaker, read the Bible to each other, talk about it and pray together. Consider “Love Talk” by Les and Leslie Parrott, an excellent conversation starter. Communication is absolutely necessary. How does your spouse feel? What is on his or her mind? How can you love your partner if you don’t know what is going on inside your partner?

Your marriage covenant to Jesus Christ and to your spouse are the two top priorities in your life. If for any reason, you are too busy to do what is necessary to keep those relationships strong, you are too busy. The greatest thing a father can do for his children is to love their mother. She is by God’s design beautifully complicated. Her needs are not the same as your needs. His way of being loved is not your way. The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman and His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley are two resources that you could use to spend those precious 30 minutes together. Finally, consider dating weekly if you stopped. Marriage should be the beginning of dating not the end!

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  • Bill Jorgensen
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    My wife and I are approaching 20 years of marriage and our marriage is still getting stronger. I don’t agree that 30 minutes twice a week is enough. With all that goes on any given day (my 93 yro Mother-In-Law live with us and has dementia), talking several times a day sometimes feels like it’s not enough. I do wholeheartedly agree with time for a date with your spouse. No matter what that looks like, time together while someone cares for those in your life that need care, is like stopping to sharpen your ax. You’ll cut more firewood with less effort if you stop occasionally and sharpen your ax. You need to do that with your heart and you truly can’t if you’re married and doing this alone. God has joined the two of you as one. If you’re not healing daily together than you’re only healing half a heart. And do you expect that to work? Or are you just thinking “what about me”? Well, you’re half the equation. Actually, let me correct that. You’re only a third of the equation if you have Christ in your life. Do you want patience? Do you need strength & wisdom? Everyone say “yes”!!! Then go to the source of all that is love and He will give without measure.

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